I can’t speak for the other autistics, so ain’t doin’ so. But I can speak for myself, and I can stare, but I don’t usually do – well… occasionally.

People stare because it’s part of the communication. One reads information from the other’s eyes.

But it’s very hard for autistics to read eyes: the eyes barely say something to me.

Thereat staring is just staring for me. And it’s tiring.

It’s tiring trying to get something from crumbs. Besides, the exertion required drains my focus, making harder to get the message.

So it’s more productive not to stare.

And you? Are you autistic? Have you stared? How do you feel?

Musician, senior software engineer, autistic, and autistic parent (not necessarily in this order)

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